Thursday, 27 March 2014

30 Pilots And Flight Attendants Confess The Best Kept Secrets You Don’t Know About Flying

The following question was posed on Reddit:

Flight Attendants, pilots, or engineers, what are some secrets that passengers don’t know when you ride on planes?

Many answers were submitted, and here are 30 of the most interesting ones. Note: Reading some of these responses may make you think twice about flying… you have been warned!

1. The true story behind those oxygen masks.


That if the oxygen masks drop down, you only have about 15 minutes of oxygen from the point of pulling them down. However, that is more than enough time for the pilot to take us to a lower altitude where you can breathe normally.

More important – at altitude, you have 15-20 seconds before you pass out. Put yours on first, then do your kids. Passing out for a few seconds won’t harm the kids.

2. The water in the lavatories is very dirty too.

Whatever you do, do not drink the water in the lav. It is bad enough to “wash” your hands in it. We sanitize the water tank at selected maintenance intervals, however parasites build tolerances to these cleaners.

Check the outside of the aircraft when walking in. If the paint is crappy shape, the plane is in crappy shape. Skydrol (hydraulic fluid) is a nasty fluid and will dissolve everything. So if the paint is missing, it’s probably from a skydrol leak. No one wants a hydraulic leak at 35,000 ft in the air. As you can’t just pull over and top the reservoir off.

3. The REAL reason the lights on the airplane dim when landing.


When a plane is landing at night, they dim the interior lights in case you need to evacuate upon landing… your eyes are already adjusted to the darkness so you’ll be able to see better once outside the plane.

4. Lightning and the power of a pilot.



My dad’s been an airline pilot for almost 20 years, and apparently planes get struck by lightning all the time. Also if a passenger is causing a scene in the jetway he can refuse to let them on and take off without them.

The captain has almost limitless authority when the doors are closed. He is allowed to arrest people, write fines and even take the will of a dying passenger.

5. Those lavatories unlock from the outside.


You are able to unlock airplane lavatories from the outside. There is usually a lock mechanism concealed behind the no smoking badge on the door. Just lift the flap up and slide the bolt to unlock.

6. A true story of a bomb threat.
I have a friend who’s a commercial pilot. Around five years ago he was doing a flight from LA to Tokyo when an anonymous caller phoned in a bomb threat while they were over the middle of the Pacific. Apparently they have procedures for this kind of thing, but there was nothing anyone could do in this situation except stay calm and not alert the passengers (obviously). He said for the rest of the flight every bump of turbulence made his adrenaline spike. They took this case especially seriously because there was a group of foreign dignitaries sitting in the first class cabin.

7. Regarding food on the plane.


My dad works for a large airline, he told me a few little things.

2 pilots are served different meals and cannot share, this is done in case of food poisoning.

Stealing food, even if they are going to throw it out can get you fired instantly. You can ask your supervisor, but you cannot take food. They don’t want people messing with it.

8. The truth about flying with pets.


I am an aircraft fueler.

One thing I cannot stress enough is how your pets are treated. While your airline will take the best possible actions, some things cannot be avoided, like the noise on the ramp. I cannot stand out there without ear protection, and imagine your pet sitting out there on the ramp waiting to be loaded onto the plane being exposed to the same amount of noise I am.

Please people, think twice before flying your pets.

9. What flight attendants really do after telling the plane to turn off their electronics.



My sister is a flight attendant, she says after she tells everyone to turn off all electronics, she goes to the back and pulls out her phone and starts texting.

10. A trick for making more space for yourself.


Arm rests – aisle and window seat: Run your hand along the underside of the armrest, just shy of the joint you’ll feel a button. Push it, and it will lift up. Adds a ton of room to the window seat and makes getting out of the aisle a helluva lot easier.

11. Don’t drink water on a plane that didn’t come from a bottle.


Former Lufthansa cargo agent here.

Do not EVER drink water on an aircraft that did not come from a bottle. Don’t even TOUCH IT. The reason being the ports to purge lavatory shit and refill the aircraft with potable water are within feet from each other and sometimes serviced all at once by the same guy. Not always, but if you’re not on the ramp watching, you’ll never know.

12. On the importance of locking your bags.
Lock your bags, carry-on bags included.

Look online or in a travel store for TSA-approved locks. The TSA has keys to open those locks in case they need to further inspect them (and hopefully not steal from them). And most people don’t think to lock their carry-on, but especially now with load factors very high, more and more people are having to gate check bags. Once you drop your bag at the end of the jetway for gate-checking, anyone from a fellow passenger, to a gate agent, to a ramp agent has access to your bag.

13. How a pilot approaches landing.


When you experience a hard landing in bad weather it wasn’t because of a lack of pilot skills but it is in fact intentional. If the runway is covered in water the airplane has to touch down hard in order to puncture the water layer and prevent aqua planing.

“Landings are nothing more than controlled crashes.” Pilot friend quote.

14. Tipping could go a long way.


My girlfriend is a flight attendant. NO ONE tips flight attendants. If you give your FA a fiver with your first drink you’ll probably drink for free the rest of the flight.

15. Pilots are sleeping most of the time.


1/2 of pilots sleep while flying and 1/3 of the time they wake up to find their partner asleep.

16. Just because you’re flying with a big airline, doesn’t mean the pilots are experienced.


Regional airline pilot here. You may have bought a ticket on Delta, United, or American, but chances are you’ll be flying on a subcontractor. That means the pilots have a fraction of the experience, training, and pay of the big mainline carrier. Also, I don’t get paid enough to care if you make your connection. Most of the time we fly slower than normal to make more money. The only time we fly fast is if ATC tells us to or if it’s the go home leg.

17. The truth behind turning off electronics.
Pilot here. Having to turn off electronics on a plane is totally useless.

Mobile electronic devices won’t really bring an airplane down but they can be really annoying to pilots. Just imagine sitting in the flightdeck descending to your destination and hearing the interference of a 100+ cellphones picking up a signal. I have missed a clearance or 2 that way.

18. Sky Mall is one big rip-off.
Secret: All of the stuff in Sky Mall can be purchased on the internet for much less money.

19. How your checked bags are really treated.If it says “fragile,” it’s getting thrown harder. If it’s says this side up, it’s going to be upside down. We have to fit freight and 100+ bags in a cargo pit. It has to fit how it’s going to fit…I will tell you that when we see “I heart baggage handlers” bag tags…We take special care of your shit.

20. A flight attendant reveals just how dirty everything truly is.
I worked for Southwest as a flight attendant. Those blankets and pillows? Yeah, those just get refolded and stuffed back in the bins between flights. Only fresh ones I ever saw were on an originating first flight in the morning in a provisioning city. Also, if you have ever spread your peanuts on your tray and eaten, or really just touched your tray at all, you have more than likely ingested baby poo. I saw more dirty diapers laid out on those trays than food. And those trays, yeah, never saw them cleaned or sanitized once.

21. A loophole so you never have to pay baggage fees.
You can almost always gate check baggage (unless it’s abnormally large) take two large carry-ons and ask then to gate check one. It’s free and I never pay fees.

22. Most flights are also carrying human organs.The majority of domestic flights have human remains or organs on them. I work below wing as a baggage handler. Watch out the window for long boxes that say, “Head” at one end… Oh, and I can fit 150 bags in bin 3 of a Boeing 737-300.

23. Airports haven’t covered all of their security bases yet.


There are actually legitimate security loopholes that, if widely known, would let average citizens get right next to airliners, runways, and taxiways. Like any system, if you know how it works, you know where the cracks are.

24. Planes without engines can still glide for a really long time.


A pilot told me if both engines fail, a plane can glide 6 nautical miles for every 5000 feet. So at 35,000 feet, a plane can glide about 42 miles without power. Its why most accidents happen landing or taking off.

25. The drinking water used for coffee and tea is FILTHY.


The drinking water, that used for making coffee, tea, etc., should NEVER be consumed. The holding tanks in these sometimes 60 year old planes are never cleaned. They have accumulated so much greenish grime on the walls that in some places it can be inches thick.

This one is very known by all airline employees.

27. Why it’s always easier to just take the batteries out.
Women: if you pack a toy in your bag, take the batteries out. Because if I’m loading your bag, and I hear it vibrating I have to tell my lead. Then my lead has to come pull you off the aircraft and you have to open your bag and turn off your toy in front of a bunch of giggling grown ass men.

27. Planes have a hard time flying on hot days.
I worked the ramp in Phoenix. On especially hot days, we had to offload cargo because planes struggled to take off in the thin air.

28. Even the headphones that come wrapped up aren’t new.


I used to work for warehouse that supplied a certain airline with items. The headsets that are given to you are not new, despite being wrapped up. They are taken off the flight, “cleaned”, and then packaged again.

29. How to tell from the ground if a plane is being hijacked.
If the plane is being hijacked when the pilot lands they will leave the wing flaps up that slow the plane down, this is to signal the airport that there is something happening in the plane.

30. The real reason there are still ashtrays in the lavatories.
Here’s one: ashtrays in the lavatories are mandatory equipment even though the FAA banned smoking on flights years ago. The reasoning is that if people do decide to smoke, they want them to have a place other than the trash can to throw the butt.
 
 

Wednesday, 26 March 2014

White Chocolate and Macadamia Nut Cookies

24.3.14 (Mon)
I have a bar of white chocolate, sitting in the fridge for quite some times..So, I decided to bake something out of it and googled for recipes. Then, I found this recipe and immediately on the next day, went to the bakery ingredients shop and grabbed all the ingredients needed and started my baking. Quite an easy recipe and the cookies turned out to be delicious! I also  gave away some to nearby neighbours.

Ingredients
125g butter, softened

165g (3/4 cup) brown sugar
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 teaspoon vanilla essence
150g (1 cup) plain flour, sifted
160g (1 cup) self-raising flour, sifted
200g white chocolate, roughly chopped
150g unsalted macadamia nuts, roughly chopped


  
Methods
1. Line a baking tray with non-stick baking paper. Preheat oven to 175°C.

2. Using an electric beater, beat the butter and brown sugar in a large bowl until thick and creamy. Add egg and vanilla essence and continue to beat until well combined.

3. Fold in the plain flour and self-raising flour until just combined, then add the white chocolate and macadamias to form a chunky mixture.

4. Place spoonfuls of the cookie mixture on the prepared tray and gently press down to flatten a little. Bake for 15-20 minutes or until golden brown. Remove from oven and set aside for a few minutes to cool slightly, then transfer to a wire rack to cool completely.



 

Friday, 14 March 2014

二十张图片表达中西差异

华裔设计师刘扬曾经在2007年出版了《东西相遇》一书,引起巨大反响。该书用简洁的笔画,用简单明了的图画向读者表现了德中两个社会的细节,比如两国家庭对待孩子的态度,人们旅游的方式,双方的审美观等等。大部分都是人们的日常经历,让德中读者们都能引起共鸣。

       这是一套关于文化对比的作品,共24张图片,红色代表中国,蓝色代表德国。本文选取了其中20张。

人际关系



生活方式



 对于守时





关于一个意见



对待愤怒



对于排队



关于自我



周末街景



关于聚会



外出旅游



 餐厅中



美丽标准



一日三餐



面对问题



沐浴时间



老年人生活



领导



交通工具



对待阳光



对待孩子

Thursday, 13 March 2014

Abby - Winner of the Sunday School Singing Competition 2014!

10.3.14 (Monday)
Yesterday was our church's Sunday School's Singing Competition. This was also Abby's second year participating in the event. Early this year, I asked what song she would like to sing and she chose 彩虹船. So, we started practicing the song 2 months ahead and was glad that she won the competition!

On that morning, I dressed her up nicely in her new dress and kept wanting her to practice the song on our way to church. She was quite steady and not nervous at all. But, when she actually stood in front of so many people, she got nervous and forgotten all about the actions, but managed to finish the song well. (Last year, I had to hold her hand when she was singing)



During the results time, Abby's name was being called in Chinese, 李歆凌..I saw her still sitting on the floor. Apparently, she was not used to being called in her Chinese name till friends next to her notify her..Then, she stood up and received her awards from the Reverent with smiling face. I knew she was really happy to be the Champion. 












彩虹船 救恩船 住在里面有平安
诺亚一家听主话 洪水降下不害怕
感谢天父预备船 救我脱离洪水难
赞美耶稣赐平安给我作伴
彩虹船 救恩船 住在里面有平安
我要学习听主话 遇到困难不害怕

Some precious videos on Ian

13.3.14 (Thurs)
I loved taking videos on both of my children, especially when they were trying to do something funny and worth to be recorded for future memories. Here were some of the videos I took on Ian and each time when I watch it, it really make me happy and laugh.

Ian imitating his PaPa doing push up.
 
1,2 Buckle my shoes
 
 How old are you?
  
三轮车
 
Ocpotus!!!
 
读金句
 
Differentiating shapes
 
Sleepy Ian
 

Tuesday, 11 March 2014

受益的育儿宝典

(Read this from FaceBook post)

我在美国生了两个孩子,生育前后都有培训班,家庭医生每次洗脑让我受益匪浅,我的两个宝宝在婴儿时期乖巧得好像家里没有小婴儿,我甚至疑心她们会不会哭?如今外婆常拿这句傻话笑我。回国后看到朋友或邻居们被小祖宗折磨得精疲力竭,想着将妈妈经写下来,或许可以帮到被小祖宗弄得手忙脚乱、身心疲惫的年轻爸爸妈妈。再次感谢南加州著名的儿科医生JANE GU,这几年在她的指导下学到很多一辈子都受益的育儿宝典。

  绝招一:如何让小宝宝不哭。

  爱哭的BABY都是爸妈教出来的。才出生的小BABY听不懂话,他们靠条件反射来做判断。中国的家长一听到孩子哭就抱起来。JANE GU医生反复告诫我:孩子一哭就放下来,不哭才抱起来,正好反过来。这样一来,再小的孩子都能明白,不哭的时候才有得抱,这招极灵。放下爱哭的孩子开始训练,看着时钟,不要抱让她哭,准备等10分钟再抱。第一次可以设定5分钟,以后一次比一次时间拉长,我的妞妞第一次就没有熬到5分钟,大约3分半的时候就停了,我已经心疼得肝肠寸断自己都快哭了,一定要忍住了。让孩子知道哭声是叫不来妈妈的。训练“不哭的孩子”要排除4个哭的其他原因:尿了、病了、饿了,困了。上帝保佑,我家两个孩子都不会无理由哭,偶尔哭一下当作运动也是极少数,妞妞和妙妙100%是快乐的宝宝,躺在床上都咯咯笑出声的孩子。

  绝招二:如何让刚出生的小宝宝一觉睡到天亮。

  美国医生再三批评我:你不是好妈妈,隔壁的孩子一睡到天亮,隔壁的妈妈是好妈妈,你不是!每次去看家庭医生我都挨批评,原因是我晚上要喂奶1-2次,抱怨养孩子很累很辛苦。医生告诉我一个观念:人类晚上不需要进食!我傻乎乎问,为什么呢?医生没办法,只好大声说:因为我们是人类!我印象极深,妞爸早就笑弯腰了。很显然,我担心BABY晚上会饿根本是多余的,10-12小时的连续睡眠,对孩子来说比吃奶重要100倍!我们被老大妞妞折磨很惨,晚上吃一顿奶的坏习惯一直延续到快2岁。养老二的时候按照医生说的,彻底让我和老公解脱出来,从刚出生到一个礼拜我家妙妙被训练距离5个小时才吃奶,2个礼拜之后,孩子就能睡天亮了。晚上不需要吃奶。

  绝招三:如何让宝宝自己静静入睡,不要摇晃。

  医生说,一个快乐的BABY会睡在床上唱歌的(不是真唱,是婴儿咿咿呀呀)!婴儿的大部分时光都需要在床上度过,这里请爸爸妈妈们记住,床是不会动的!所以,抱起婴儿的时候不要摇晃,不要来回走动,更不要这样哄孩子睡觉,轻轻放在床上让他自己睡就好。再说一次,床是不会动的。爸爸妈妈你们没有权利剥夺孩子躺在床上享受快乐的权利。还有更重要的就是,兴奋的家长不要用力和孩子“疯闹”,孩子的大脑在婴儿时期还是胶状的果冻状态,很容易受伤。

  绝招四:趴着睡养美女。

  个人经验,孩子趴着睡觉比仰着睡得安稳,才出生的孩子心脏朝下,几乎不会一惊一惊的状态,模仿子宫被包裹的状态。另一个最大的好处是改变亚洲人的大饼脸,5天之内的婴儿需要1个小时帮忙翻脸,5天之后,我家妞就会自己左右转向自如了。妞是标准的小脸,和生出来的时候大方脸好像变了一个孩子,呵呵,得意。老二妙妙的脸没有刻意这样做,那时候妞妞需要人照顾,没有精力1个小时翻头的精力了,很可惜。这个机会只有在出生到3个月之内有效,大了就没用了。



  绝招五:宝宝的抵抗力比你强十倍。
 
  爸爸妈妈穿2件,宝宝绝不能穿2件半,只能比你穿的少,不能比你穿的多。我家两个孩子都十分强壮,冷热其实很好控制,偶尔看到儿童医院发烧的孩子被花被子棉袄裹着一层一层的,可怜啊,孩子不会说话,都是家长害的。



  绝招六:拒绝抗生素!

  感冒发烧是孩子成长的过程,是增强抵抗力的过程。我家宝宝发烧了最常用的就是用冰敷,用有拉链的保鲜袋装冰块,用干净毛巾裹了冰敷在全身,30分钟一定退烧。烧厉害了配点美林或泰诺。如果是着凉了感冒没有发烧,就让孩子吊着鼻涕没有事,几天就好。不要相信任何药能治疗感冒。到目前为止,除了去年的手足口被医院骗进去那一次之外,我家2个孩子从来没有挂过盐水和注射过抗生素。在美国,是那种要死的病才注射抗生素的,在中国注射室的景观,吓坏了妞妞的爸爸,那个景象让人发毛他说。一排一排的吊针,打手打头打脚的小孩子们在妈妈爸爸爷爷奶奶的陪护下挂盐水。集中营莫过如此,很恐怖。花钱不说,更可怕的是体内的细菌大战存留的各种毒越来越多,周期性的需要挂盐水来压下去,常常听到妈妈们说,有一点症状马上挂水压下去,十分得意。我为她们的无知十分惋惜。我的孩子越来越健壮,从不生病,病了也几天自己好,基本不治疗。邻居的孩子半夜跑医院,累的人仰马翻乐此不疲,从这点看我是好妈妈。

  绝招七:天天洗澡,用清水,少用沐浴露。

  我的2个宝宝健康的另外一个原因是天天洗澡,天天洗澡是必要的。记得我生完孩子出来,准备听我妈妈的教诲躺着不动,打算熬到第二天才洗澡,护士惊讶地拉我起来洗澡“不管你什么传统,把汗水和细菌都洗掉才会健康”。我被误会成个脏妈妈被拖去洗澡,当然要说明的是我生两个都是顺产。产妇如此,何况小孩子?孩子每天运动量大,臭汗奶腥味便便尿尿什么味道都有,一定要洗澡,不能隔天才洗。这也是健康不生病的重要原因,他们不会着凉的,抵抗力比成人强十倍。医生交代:宝宝洗澡尽量用清水,再名牌的婴儿产品都不如清水好,不要用任何沐浴露、洗发水,清水最最好!医生说尽量不用,一定要用的话一个星期用一次沐浴露就好,我家是三天用一次(我觉得一周太长了,心理作用)。

  绝招八:没有奶不够吃的妈妈,只有不想喂奶的妈妈。

  能吃到2岁半是天下最幸福的宝宝。JANE GU医生说,没有奶不够吃的妈妈,只有不想喂奶的妈妈,孩子的食量多大,妈妈的奶就有多少,生双胞胎的妈妈的奶同样够两个孩子吃。这一点我很失败,尽管GU医生用笔画了一个圆圈,她告诉我,你的孩子吃多少,你就能生产多少,你觉得奶不够,加奶粉进去,奶就会真的不够,最后就没了,事实证明我后来真的越来越少直到没了。孩子不会说话,她吃饱没有很难知道,妈妈觉得奶少了就放弃母奶,就补奶粉,其实是告诉自己的身体,我只能生产这么多了。要相信自己能当头称职的奶牛。如果再生一个,一定要证明一下。生完小孩第三天就去医院参加“喂奶班”,几个妈妈带婴儿围成一圈,有黑妈妈白妈妈和亚洲妈妈,喂奶课用的是那种很舒服的沙发,脚下有垫脚的专用凳子。医生们将孩子脱光,包括尿布,然后称BABY的重量精确到小数点后面2位数。然后让我们抱孩子喂奶,不准穿衣服只穿尿布。医生一对一教妈妈们如何让孩子一口就咬准奶头,如何保护奶头,一次一次训练,期间有别的妈妈来用免费提供的吸奶机下奶,用塑料袋装回家。我刚开始的害羞和尴尬慢慢没有了,呵呵,我在家完全不知道妞妞吃了多少,这下好了,一堂课下来,马上称孩子份量,我妞妞吃了不少,好像是那天的第二名,前后数据证明,我有奶。



  绝招九:宝宝吃奶睡着怎么办?

  BABY被妈妈抱着舒服又安全,没吃饱就睡着了,醒了又吃两口,折磨妈妈,宝宝也吃不饱睡不好,害人害己。训练班里学到最有用的一招,如何弄醒孩子让他们专心吃奶,就是脱衣服!脱得就剩尿布,医生告诉我,放心吧,你抱着她有妈妈的体温,这体温能保证婴儿不会着凉,温度刚刚好,BABY有一点凉意,他们会用心进餐(她说的真是进餐,呵呵)。放心吧,这些看起来弱不禁风的小东西,从妈妈母体带出来的抵抗力比成人强10倍,喂奶的产妇也不容易病,这就是繁殖的力量。(当然室内的温度是有一定温暖的,国内无空调寒冷地区的人不要对照模仿误会)

  绝招十:母奶是最好的“抗生素”。

  妞妞大概10来天的时候,一只眼睛发炎化脓了,我和妞爸吓得抱到医院,还是急诊,儿科的男医生问,你喂奶还是奶粉,我说母奶。他说挤点出来放进孩子眼睛,BABY就会好。What? 我排队等急诊老半天就这么打发我回家了。于是如法炮制,母奶当药,几天后妞妞果然见好,是否母奶的原因还是不清不楚,美国医生忽悠得或许有点道理吧。总之母奶是好东西。

  绝招十一:你会换尿布吗?

  废话,养孩子的谁不会换尿布呢?不一定哦。你是否有被孩子喷到尿或臭便便的时候呢?一天洗5次床单是我的最高记录。换尿布的时候,每次来的新阿姨都要重新教一遍,窍门就是把干净尿布放在臭尿布下面,再打开尿布,擦干净抽出来,这样即使孩子正好那时候又便又尿,你的床单保住了。习惯这么做以后,永远没有意外发生。

  绝招十二:你会拍嗝吗?

  姿势一,趴在肩膀上轻拍孩子后背,这种是传统姿势,很多时候不太容易拍出来嗝。

  姿势二:让孩子侧坐在腿上,左手托着孩子的脖子,撑起下巴,右手拍后背,这样效率极高,通常十几下就拍出嗝了。临睡的最后一顿奶,一定要喂饱足了,拍完嗝继续喂,我家妙妙2礼拜就睡整晚就是用这招,拍完嗝还可以再喂2-3次,直到她真的不吃了,小嘴巴往外推奶瓶的状态,妙妙就能睡到天亮。

  绝招十三:早点吃五谷杂粮。

  4个月吃米粉再大点跟大人一起吃东西,孩子长大不太会偏食,早点吃和成人一样的食物对孩子有好处。6颗牙的时候,JANE GU医生说,她已经可以用这几颗牙齿吃很多东西了,什么都可以喂,没有不能吃的。

  绝招十四:别破坏宝宝的专注力。

  再小的宝宝玩玩具或看电视或看图画书的时候,请家里的阿姨或者任何人都别打断她们。即使是吃饭的时间到了,晚一点也没有关系。培养孩子的专注力就等于培养她们长大了能注意力集中做任何事情。我家妞妞专注力很好,她喜欢的事,比如拼图,一个下午几个钟头不抬头,没有人叫她,除了尿尿之外。最怕那种大呼小叫逗孩子的长辈们,自以为聪明,边看电视边问问题。闭嘴,请安静。给孩子一个专注的环境吧。

   绝招十五:慢慢走路,小声说话。

  身体力行很重要,大人怎样的孩子都会学。难得遇到上海一位陆老师,教孩子慢慢走路,轻声说话,人家听得到就好了,别那么大声。回了家乡,小区的幼儿园老师教孩子们扯起嗓门唱歌,我在一旁看,心想完了,培养了半天的小淑女被汉派文化同化了,哈哈,如今的妞妞热干面一样的个性十足,整个儿一辣妹。大环境很厉害,几乎没有不被同化的可能。

  绝招十六:只要没有生命危险,鼓励宝宝试试看,摸摸看。

  中国父母礼节有余,胆子太小。“别动,危险,站起来地上脏,别摸,会刺到。。。。不许这样,不许那样”美国父母最常说的却是“Try it! ”试试看,摸摸看。鼓励宝宝,只要没有生命危险,不要阻止孩子用他们的小手尝试和认识世界。大不了衣服弄脏,地上滚来滚去的宝宝时光很短,饭粒菜汤翻了一地,大不了扫一下他们会早学会吃饭甚至用筷子,玩水大不了感冒,玩沙子大不了进鞋子难受难清洁。总之有很多阻碍孩子快乐的条条框框,促使我们的小天使们越来越快地变成成人,变成听话和懂事的孩子。快乐第一重要,衣服脏了不重要,只要没有生命危险,不要阻止我的孩子。

  绝招十七:也是最重要的一招,一天只能批评两次!

  父母也不可以随便批评宝宝,一天只能批评两次,两次用完了就等明天的配额吧。美国老师这么慎重交代的。于是,宝宝外婆说:“你的孩子一天10次都不够,2次的话我10分钟就用完了,这太难了。我大笑。在婴儿的时期,批评有用吗?拉个便便也被阿姨批评“宝宝又干坏事了”我会反问阿姨,你有哪天不拉屎吗?